It’s spring. So I’ve been gardening. I planted three flats of flowers, rows of veggies, and all my bare-root trees leafed out. And I’ve also fallen behind in weeding, and tried to resurrect lawn that was played on too much when it was dormant.



The garden has done pretty well this year. I think this Asian pear tree might tip over with all the fruit on it. IMG_6374

The raised beds did great. I planted way too many tomatoes, and the summer squash exploded. I’ve been feeding extras to my chickens. IMG_6369

We’ve had quite a few good melons. I was sad to find out my striped Armenian cucumber died soon after transplanting. Instead, I have pickling cucumbers, with no intention to make pickles. IMG_6370IMG_6372

This is the first year I also felt like I’ve got enough eggplant. I use it exclusively to make ratatouille and have quite a few batches stored in the freezer. IMG_6371IMG_6364

I signed up for Chip Drop years ago…and was pleasantly surprised to drive home and find a huge load. It’s all conifer trees and full of pine needles and smells amazing. The whole yard is getting a new layer of mulch, and we don’t have to spend a dime or use our truck. IMG_6352IMG_6353IMG_6357IMG_6359

Flowers and Gardens

The garden is growing. It’s doing pretty well. My greenhouse tomatoes are pretty close to ripening. The hollyhocks I planted last year are blooming. It’s nice to see the yard kind of coming together after five years of working on it.


And a bonus poppy picture from up the canyon.


Spring Events

One of my bucket list items is to raise bees. I’ve learned a bit about bees, and one of my strange desires was to see a bee swarm. This year, we had one come and nest in our tree. It was awesome.

But a bee swarm in my tree is pretty useless, so a few hours later, we had a beekeeper come by, and the next day, the bees were gone.

Here are a few more pictures enjoying all the spring flowers.


The last few weeks have gone quickly or slowly. I’m not sure which. It’s been a whirlwind of model building, photoshop, research articles, and listening to final presentations. I turned in my last assignment for the semester today. Now I can breathe. And get caught up on the weeds in the garden that have taken over while I was busy.


My one regret is I don’t have any work I’m proud of. I completed projects and received decent grades, but a lot of what I did was in a rush or in a group project. I didn’t refine it to a point that I knew I did as good as I could. I might take the summer to build more portfolio pieces where I have more time and autonomy do what I know I can do.

For now, I’m transferring much of my efforts into the garden. It’s beautiful in spite of the weeds.


I would say this is the first harvest of the season, but we’ve actually been cutting lettuce for weeks. I’ve also had asparagus, but it doesn’t make it into the house. IMG_5337


Every year I take about the same pictures in early spring. It is so fun to have the first flowers appear.


I took this picture of weeds…they are all weeds, except for the shrub. One thing that has changed in my perception of gardening is weeds. Weeds can be friends, not foe. All of these are winter annuals and they will quickly die back in summer, none are too invasive.


When we first moved into our house there weren’t any weeds, but there weren’t any worms either. The soil was pretty sterile and awful. One of the best things we’ve done to improve the soil is not tilling or pouring on herbicides to control all the weeds and letting the non-invasive weeds grow as a free cover crop. We mow them down and do get rid of the more invasive ones, but weeds have been a part of developing better soil.

The big project we’ve been working on is these raised beds in the garden. They have been planned for years, and we finally had the time (and no other pressing projects) to put them in.


We built them with remnants of sheet piles that my brother-in-law picked up from a large construction project. It was super cheap, and not that hard to put together (we rented a trencher which was far worth the small rental fee).

I’m trying to do a better job of utilizing my greenhouse. I just planted tomatoes (two months early…I think I will double cover them if it gets cold again), and I’ve got peas and lettuce going strong.


New Patio

I’ve wanted to finish this patio for so, so long. It’s finally mostly done, and I love it. This is how the space looked before:


Nothing special, just a weedy batch of ground between the porch and the rest of the yard. This is how it looks now:


It’s a fun place. I didn’t want to spend a lot of time or money on it, but I still wanted it better than a weed patch. We used road base as the base material, since it is pretty inexpensive, and if we ever want to change it to something like flagstone, you should have road base under the flagstone anyway.

The lights and curtains were non-negotiable. The curtains are awesome for shade and privacy.  And I love the lights at night (but not the mosquitoes. We rigged a structure with conduit and t-posts: it’s not the best, but was pretty simple and inexpensive to set up. Total cost was around $400.

Other pictures from the yard:

The sunflowers won’t be in this same spot next year. I love my pond and think it’s quite lovely and blocked it off with sunflowers. They will go somewhere else.


Careers vs Motherhood: Why it Shouldn’t be a Competition

I live in a religious culture that speaks highly of women who leave the workplace to spend their time raising children. My mother had children when she was young before she had the opportunity to establish any sort of career. She made raising children her main career. I had many brothers and sisters, and some of my best memories are coming home from school to the smell of her wonderful chocolate chip cookies, fresh from the oven.

Part of my culture encourages stay at home moms, but there is the culture surrounding me that encourages women to fully engage in the workforce, to pursue leadership roles and careers. Sometimes I struggle with knowing how to balance these two seemingly competing values. I do think it is valuable for women to stay home with their children, but it is also good to contribute to society and have a career.

I saw my mom return to school at various times, considering different career paths as we grew and needed less of her time. She always encouraged us to get good grades, and it was expected that we would go to college and get an education. She never did decide on any career path, and after her children left home, she found value in the continuing care-taking needs of aging parents, children and grandchildren, as well as various volunteer positions.

I enjoy school and didn’t feel like I was done with traditional education when I graduate with my Bachelor’s degree in Horticulture. Pursuing a graduate degree was something I always had on my bucket list. However, when I graduated, I was five months pregnant with my first child, and my husband had his applications out for his graduate school. A graduate degree for myself was highly impractical, and besides that, I had no idea what I would like to study.

I spent the next eight years helping my husband continue through graduate school, and establish his career. I also maintained what I liked to think of as a hobby business. I did gardening and design but didn’t spend too much time on it or make too much money.

Most of my time was spent raising my children. And I tried to do it with a vigor. We added two more boys over the years. I took my children to parks, events, the library. I did activities with them, learning about liquid watercolors, water beads, and the many different ways the baking soda and vinegar can be combined. I created a fun home and garden for them to play in.

At times I was engaged in my life, and in those times, I was happy. But it is often hard to be fully engaged in life when the schedule for the day includes trying to potty train a resistant toddler, finding yet another way to encourage my son to reluctantly practice the piano, and going to the grocery store because we ran out of milk.

I struggled at times with my emotions: anger was far too common, depression could crop up. Mothering tried my patience and sometimes left me feeling less and without an identity. The greatest remedy to this was to have full days that I was excited about. Focusing only on my children often left me bored and depressed. Focusing on more, including things like learning, serving others, developing strong friendships, and creative projects, created a happier life for me.

I also found that having more interests than my children helped me to be a better mother. I could not only give them the necessities of life but show them the joys of living. I introduced them to gardening, design, and service. I encouraged their independence when I didn’t always have the time to give them everything they wanted right when they wanted. They had more opportunities: new places to visit, more time spent with their dad while I had a client to go to, and new friends they made. One of my children developed an active love of drawing only after I took a drawing class.

They also gave back to me. I didn’t know what I wanted to study when I graduate with my horticulture degree. Then I spent years doing kid art projects, designing spaces for my children to be kids, and visiting parks and other places. I found out that I enjoyed being creative and solving problems. Through all this experience, I decided to go into landscape design, something I had not considered seriously earlier because I did not think of myself as all that creative.

About a year ago, I was ready for a new challenge. Although my children were still young, I decided to pursue graduate school. I looked at different programs and took online classes, and was recently admitted into a Masters of Landscape Architecture program.

Sometimes I question what I am doing. My children are young, they need me. School seems stressful, demanding and I’m not always sure how I will manage. Balance seems impossible. But it isn’t a question of balance. Careers and education are not competing forces with the family. They can be complementary, adding to each other.

I’ve seen this in my husband’s career. He works at a nursing home as a physical therapist: my children have had many opportunities to get to know and love these older folk, who love to see them. It’s not only provided an income for our family, but a place for my children to learn a bit more about others who are different, and for our family to serve others.

Both my husband and I picked careers that are able to blend with family life. My husband’s employment is next door to my children’s school. As I’ve worked for myself, in my hobby business and during online classes, I didn’t wait until after my children were in bed. Most of my work is done at home, and my desk is in the dining room, right in the center of family activity. I enjoy sharing what I am doing with them.

This isn’t possible for everyone. It is very common that careers and family are treated as competing efforts that do not blend together. Most people are not allowed to bring their children to work with them, even if it is just for a few minutes, and often commute time prohibits this. Some people can’t study well with three children + friends playing loudly right next to them. Figuring out how it all works is different for everyone.

The timing can be essential: I finished one degree before I had children, and started another right in the middle of the raising them. I know others who finished their education and established their career before they had their children. Others I know wait until their children are much older and independent, or leave home. Some are forced into the workplace due to underemployment, death or divorce. It is possible to take breaks in employment if it’s needed. There are also opportunities for self-employment, working from home, having flexible jobs, and splitting responsibilities with others that help meet the demands of caregiving. It is possible to have a career and have a family.

It’s often challenging to figure it all out, but it doesn’t mean I should give up my career entirely. When I improve as a person, when I contribute more, I will also have more to give to my children. I am a firm believer in putting our family first: and this can mean giving up certain career opportunities, or delaying employment or education because the workplace isn’t often congruent to our needs as caregivers. It doesn’t mean that I have to give up my career entirely.

I need to be engaged in my life, develop self-reliance, take good care of our children, improve as a person, and contribute to the communities in which I live. What this looks like in everyone’s life is different. It can include stay-at-home parents, working parents, small families, big families, and for me, deciding to start a graduate program when my children are still young.

Endnote: With my strong, spiritual background, and I believe it is essential to make many of these decisions with the guidance of God. He helps us accomplish what can look impossible on paper. I believe family is important and should be put first. How God leads us is different for everyone!