Loving Guidance

I love feeling like the Lord is guiding my life, strengthening me and showing me a Godly path to follow. I feel I have grown spiritually recently: many weaknesses I have struggled with recently aren’t as much of a problem. I can see myself growing.

I want to never go backward again, to become truly changed as a person. And I believe that through the Atonement this is possible. But I sometimes have bad days, where weaknesses threaten to come back and bad habits take over.

I cannot ever stop trying or believe I will not be tempted again in certain ways. Spirituality requires constant vigilance.

Mosiah 4: 30 “But this much I can tell you, that if ye do not watch yourselves, and your thoughts, and your words, and your deeds, and observe the commandments of God, and continue in the faith of what ye have heard concerning the coming of our Lord, even unto the end of your lives, ye must perish. And now, O man, remember, and perish not.”

New Nursery

We decided to turn the storage room into a nursery. Technically it was already a bedroom, but it is a very small room, and it had a cement floor and other various parts that were not finished . When we moved in, it was a clothes closet and then a place to store all the games and school/craft supplies. It made a great storage room. but we are having a baby and it made sense to turn it into a bedroom. I did not want to put a lot of money into this room, but I did want a room that I felt comfortable in.

I cleaned out all the various junk inside the room to other locations around the house. We started by installing some remnant carpet tiles for the flooring. It is mismatched flooring, but also very inexpensive and easy to install. I added some curtains from IKEA, got a new cover for my recliner, and set up the crib. Joe added an overhead light that wasn’t on a pull switch, along with another outlet. He also removed some redundant plumbing pipe. (That took awhile because he didn’t quite know what he was doing…thank goodness for a good friend that was able to show him what to do.)

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Total cost was also under $175 so far, which included new flooring. The bedroom still isn’t going to impress anyone, but I enjoy it and it is a huge improvement over what we had. I wish I had a picture of the place beforehand, but it was never anything worthy of taking a picture of. It still isn’t quite done, the room needs molding and inside the closet isn’t finished. We might get those projects done eventually. For now it will work wonderfully as a nursery for our new little baby who is coming very soon.

Sometimes I’ve found it very easy to get caught up in dreaming. Dreaming made easier by the world of Pinterest, and Houzz. Before I moved into my new home, I love perusing photographs of lovely homes, saving ideas and pictures I dreamed of copying. Then I bought a house. Our house isn’t perfect. When we moved in, I was much more interested in making the house comfortable and safe than copying the ideas I saved. Projects like finishing off a threshold, installing a toilet correctly, and getting rid of anything I found hideous came first. I stopped looking for ideas, instead going off of my limited budget and own desires. I love my home now if I let myself, and I didn’t create it by copying ideas on the Internet. I am creating my home by responding to my own desires and ideas, and by often being content with less than perfect.

Sometimes I still find a blog or post that makes me want to re-do another room or abandon my simple decor and strange floor plan. I have to take a step back. I stop comparing my home to another and instead ask, “Am I comfortable here? Does my house function well for our family? Is it a place I love to be?” There are still projects I want to do, but they don’t necessarily match the goals of the wide world of home decor out there. This is my home, and the only people who need to love it is my family and me.

I re-did a nursery and I’m not getting any awards from it. But I stayed in our budget, and I’m perfectly happy with it. That’s far more important to me than to try to impress anyone else.

Pizza and Monsters

Yesterday, PB went with my husband over to his parents to help move a few items. I stayed home to finish a book. When they got home, PB walked in extremely excited. he acted like he just won a free trip to Disneyland. “Mom, Little Ceasers opens in seven days!” He talked about it all night, and even made a countdown. So next week, we will be eating cheap pizza because that is the best kind of food when you are five.

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Fall Leaves

I don’t have any large deciduous trees on my property, so fall leaf clean-up isn’t an issue for me. But I wish it was. Leaves are valuable! I cringe when I see leaves thrown away in regular garbage (green waste is okay if you have to). Why? Well, because they are free organic matter. And organic matter is key to good soils and gardens.

How to you transform fall leaves into good soil? Here are some ideas for using them:

1)Mow. The year I did landscaping for a condo HOA, I raked only a small section of leaves. For the most part, I’d shred them up with the mower and leave them. I did it about three different times, so I never had over a couple of inches of leaves on the ground at any one time. The leaves nicely decomposed in the ground. It was super easy. This works really well for fine leaved trees like honeylocust (sometimes you don’t even have to mow those), but will also work with the thicker leaves like maples as long as you don’t let the leaves get too thick.

2)Mulch. This year, I piled the leaves nice and high around some spireas. I needed mulch there, and fall leaves are free. It also would work well in sheet mulching to smother lawn and other weeds.

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3)Compost. Leaves can be added to a compost pile. They would act as a high-carbon or brown type of compost and should be combined with a bit of something high in nitrogen like manure, kitchen scraps or green material if you want ideal compost. (Although compost doesn’t ever have to be perfect.)

4)Annual Garden. This is probably the most common use I see: adding a nice layer of leaves to the garden. Most people till it in, which could be done in the spring or fall, but it doesn’t have to be. It would work well with a no-till garden by just leaving the leaves there and using them as mulch in the spring. The only caution is if you do till a large amount of leaves in, the high-carbon can eat up the nitrogen in the soil. Don’t do a large amount right before planting, or if you do make sure there is an additional source of nitrogen.

One of my actual fears in life is at some point I’m going to have a lot of leaves and some kind person will feel the need to rake them up and haul them away for me. I love leaves and firmly believe that they are far too valuable to end up in the trash!

Moving Furniture

We live in an old house, so it is no surprise that the floor plan is a bit hard to work with. The living area is great and I’m happy with it. The bedrooms are rather interesting. With young children, I like to be able to sleep near enough that I can hear them in the night. It took us a while to figure out how to do that. Here is the current arrangement:

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The main floor has pretty much stayed the same since we moved in. We used a bedroom off the front room for a playroom, and I love having it there.

When we first moved in, we used the downstairs family room as a master bedroom, with the kids in the bedroom one. Bedroom three is very small and was unfinished, so it became our closet. The attic room was our school room, where I set up all our school activities and other toys. It worked, but the family room just didn’t make a very good bedroom.

The downstairs family room was converted to the school room, where it remains. We moved the master bedroom upstairs to the attic room. It was a lovely bedroom but had several fatal flaws. Attics get hot in the summer. The nearest bathroom was down a flight of steep stairs (and I became pregnant). We were also two flights of stairs from our kids. Although they generally slept through the night, we still used a baby monitor and occasionally had to go down two flights to comfort a child.

Now, the master bedroom is in bedroom one. We moved the boys to bedroom two, and have been working on finishing up bedroom number three for a nursery when the new baby comes. It is not perfect. All of the bedrooms downstairs are pretty tiny, but it works. Eventually when the kids are older they will probably move up to the attic room and have more space. (The room is currently a guest room and place to put everything that doesn’t have anywhere else to go. It isn’t used much.)

We ended up moving a lot of furniture in the process. I’m glad my husband has put up with all my requests to occasionally move a large bed up or down two flights of stairs.

Halloween

Halloween was fun. I didn’t take any pictures of the boys though. PB decided he just wanted to be Batman before, using the same costumes we’ve now used for three years. I would occasionally mention another idea, I was more than willing to do something else, but he just wanted to be Batman again. The kids ended up with a ton of candy. We went to both Nursing homes were Joe works and Joe also took them around the block.

We went to the Dinosaur Park in Ogden last Saturday. I did get pictures there: so instead of Halloween pictures, enjoy the Dinosaurs. It is Dinovember after all.

Overwhelm Them with Love

I have wild boys. At times they wrestle each other too harshly, they hurt each other when they don’t get their way, model reverence is a distant goal, words they aren’t supposed to say are often used, and bedtime can push both parents to a near breaking point.

I’ve thought a lot, I’ve read a lot a lot of discipline. I have tried new tactics occasionally, regressed to old and less than wonderful tactics like yelling. More than anything though, one experience and phrase has stuck with me to guide my efforts.

I was praying to God, asking for help with my children. And I felt this overwhelming love from Him, as I often do when I reach out toward Him. Every time I have asked for help, testimony, or anything else the answer comes at first as a feeling of love. This time as I was basking in His love, I thought the phrase, “Overwhelm them with love.”

“Overwhelm them with love” was my answer for all the discipline with my children. Too often in the past I have turned to anger instead of love and gotten nowhere. But turning to love instead always works.

So today, when my two children decided to engage in a loud physical fight right in the middle of church, I took them out into a room by ourselves. I told them firmly that they were in trouble and that was not acceptable behavior. My oldest was very upset about getting into trouble and cried and complained loudly for a while. I let him. And then when he started to calm himself down, I went up and put my arm around him and told him I love him, and listened to him.

My child needed to be told what he was doing wasn’t acceptable. But he also need someone to listen to him and know that he was loved no matter what. He needed someone to patiently and calmly help him through his emotions so he would be able act more appropriately.

Love accomplishes more than any other act of discipline. It isn’t my first train of thought when the kids are acting up to overwhelm them with love. But it is always the best course of action.